Wilma's Deception (By guest blogger Henry Mullins)

A few years ago my wife, Wilma, died. Today, May 30th, is our anniversary. Wilma and I were married 63 years ago today. She had been an incredible woman to go through life with. She was “my girl Wilma”. In fact, she liked for me to say that. Wilma died of what they call “a long illness”. It was cancer and once the cancer was diagnosed, it took a few months. We knew that Wilma could not survive the cancer. The only question was; could I survive the loss of Wilma?

Henry Mullins

When Wilma was growing very weak, lying in bed in a hospice facility, she whispered to me that she had something she wanted to tell me. She said it was something that before she left, she wanted it off her mind. I moved close and in a halting voice Wilma told me that many decades earlier she had been unfaithful to me. Although she was not trying to be funny, I kind of chuckled. The notion of my girl Wilma being unfaithful was funny. But she shook her head listlessly and insisted that she had been untrue. In her tired voice she told me who it was; it had been Bob Maxwell. I remembered him. Decades earlier he had been a handsome, single man who had been a neighbor from across the street. Wilma said that their affair had gone on for at least a year.

It just did not seem possible, but Wilma was obviously being forthright. I had no choice but to believe her. I stepped back away from the bed and slowly lowered myself into a nearby chair. It felt like some invisible dagger had been thrust into my chest. There were a number of emotions washing over me. I felt confusion, heartbreak, and a lot of anger.

I came to visit Wilma the next day. She was in and out of consciousness. For a time I held her hand but I did not feel the sorrowfulness that should have been there. How could I? I had been deceived by the woman I had spent my life with. In a way our entire marriage had been a lie.

The next day Wilma died. My wife had died and yet I did not know how to feel. I decided that it was all right to feel some anger. After all, I had not brought it on myself. Over the subsequent months I felt a degree of grief and loneliness, but I felt disgust and disappointment too. I just could not help it. It was a natural reaction to my torment. 

Exactly six months later Wilma’s younger sister, Catherine, came to visit. I have always liked Catherine, and I thought it was a nice gesture for her to pay me a call. We sat at my kitchen table and I brewed a pot of coffee. For a moment we chatted about the weather and one thing or another. Finally Catherine stated that it had been six months to the day since Wilma died, and that there was something I was supposed to know. Catherine then said simply “Bob Maxwell”. For an instant the mere utterance of the name stunned me. But it was only for an instant.

I carefully placed my coffee cup upon the table and muttered, “So, your sister told you about him, huh?”

Catherine nodded. She then smiled and said that it wasn't true. It had been a lie. “Wilma thought that resentment was less painful than grief,” stated Catherine. “So that’s what she did; she gave you resentment instead of grief.”

Wilma and I on our wedding day

I was numb, speechless, but I also knew it was true.

“Wilma figured that in six months, when time had bypassed the period of grief, you should be told the truth. She wanted me to tell you that there had never been anyone but you, and that Wilma had loved you very much. She wanted you to go through the remainder of your life knowing that to her, her marriage to you had never been less than a wonderful thing, and that you were a wonderful man. In fact, she thought you were so wonderful, her last act was to save you from the pain and agony of her dying.”

My girl Wilma, happy anniversary.       

God Where Are You?

I'm highly skeptical that there is a god. I'm putting the odds at 1 in 10. The problem is, I want there to be a god. I want it in the worst way. It's a selfish thing, really. Plain fact is, I yearn for an afterlife. I have a tough time with the concept of an eternity of nothingness. I find is scary. Terrifying. When I envision death, it is like a prolong term of acute boredom. Tied to a theater seat during a continuously playing David Spade film. As I see it, the only way to avoid the endless darkness is via God. I have to suck-up to God. But see, there's the rub. I don't think God is out there. I could cover my bases and pretend I'm a big God fan, but if God is anything like people claim him to be, he'd know I was faking it. All the prayers, the kneeling, the sacrifices during Lent, all an act and the Guy'd know it. He'd probably be less pissed if I didn't acknowledge Him at all. I can't make myself become a theist any more than I can make myself eight feet tall, or a country music fan. What a predicament.

The other day I was sitting back in my recliner and staring up at the ceiling in thought when it entered my head that there's actually somewhere near a reasonable chance that some kind of thinking entity created the universe. He, or she, or it, would have put together all the various forms of matter, concocted the rules of physics, and kicked the whole thing into motion. For a while I thought I might be on to something. Maybe my problem was on the verge of being solved. But as much as I pondered I just couldn't make this "being", if it's even there, be even remotely similar to the God found in various religious literature. I figured that this hypothetical "being" may have created the universe, and both the Earth and man are byproducts that came into existence through a combination of a lot of time and a fair amount of happenstance. No I could not convince myself that this creature even knows we are here. I couldn't come close to buying into the notion that it is looking over us, critiquing our lives for moral content. In short, this mild revelation I recently experienced didn't help me negotiate my dilemma with the hereafter.

People have said that God has spoken to them. But if I'm standing right next to one of these individuals while God is communicating I know I won't hear a thing. I think God needs to come out in the open. That's the only answer. I'd start a global petition if I knew where to send it. What's with all the secrecy anyhow? I've heard this thing about "faith" but in the great realm of human behavior, faith isn't actually a particularly positive trait. As deeds go, faith is kind of neutral. So why would God make it a requirement? See, it's just that kind of thinking that gets me in trouble. The standard response would be "Because that's the way he is", or words to that effect. Well, that's not the kind of logic that's going to sway me. And I want to be swayed!

If you see God, if he's sitting on your porch drinking a lemonade, send me an email and I'll rush right over. I'll travel at top speed because I'll want very desperately for him to be there... I mean really there.

My Cyber Mother (By Guest blogger Chet Mays)

My previous computer was over a week old so it had become obsolete. It worked okay so I decided to delete all the porn, and anything else that might seem objectionable, with the idea that I'd give it to my grandmother. She'd been asking about computers, you see. The old gal is about six hundred years old and has lived alone for a decade or so. So about a month ago I took the Compaq over to her little house to set it up for her. I actually find my grandmother's digs kind of creepy. Everything is clean enough but the stuff is just so darn old. She has this ancient highback chair that I think Lincoln was sitting in the night he was assassinated. She has this long, wooden table in her kitchen that I believe was originally built for the Last Supper. Her television is a Philco, circa 1955. Just about the only time she turns it on is to watch the Huntley-Brinkley Report, which explains why it still works.

Chet Mayes and Grandma

Anyway, the old gal didn't know a thing about computers. She was starting from scratch. She called the keyboard the "typewriter", and the monitor the "television". She was amazed that the television's picture was in color. An oversight on my part made it impossible for us to use the computer without typing in the password MrHung, a bit of inaccurate self-flattery. Following a split second of anxious thinking, I explained that Mr. Hung was probably the Japanese man who assembled the computer in the factory.

I showed her how the mouse worked, various keyboard functions, and so forth. I returned after two weeks and saw right away that the old dame was starting to get the knack of it. Too much so, perhaps. She had enough confidence that she wanted to go on that thing called "The Internet". After a few minutes of discussion, I relented. I figured that with my grandmother's advanced age, an old computer, and a connection with dial-up service, she would likely be dead of natural causes before the Net ever appeared on her computer's television.

I returned a few days later with the required software. Low and behold, we got her up and running on the Net. We visited some generic website. There across the top of the page were terms such as "Support" and "Log-Out". I told her that it would do her no good to click on "Support" if she suddenly lost her balance, and "Log-Out" had nothing to do with a bowel movement. For a few seconds she wasn't sure if I was kidding or not. But it was only a few seconds. She's not quite that bad. 

God help us, a mid-20th Century passenger just climbed on board the 21st Century.